Developing a Healthy Mindset and Preparing for Change

    Lifestyle changes can be challenging. Whether we’re moving to a new home, starting a new job, dealing with new family dynamics, or endeavoring to change old habits, we can become overwhelmed by clutter or a change in our schedule. We may think “I can’t do this, it’s too hard.” or “Look at all the work I still have to do, I’ll never be done!” If we believe such thoughts, then there’s a good chance they’ll prove true. Telling ourselves we can’t can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.  On the other hand, if we acknowledge these thoughts and redirect them to something more positive, like, “I’m so grateful for this opportunity to improve my life.” or “I’ve made some progress in the past week,” we empower ourselves to change the situation.

    Change is hard - our brains and bodies search for shortcuts in order to seek comfort and conserve energy as a tool for survival. We feel secure in our predictable routines and ingrained habits. While it’s natural to seek comfort and security, it’s important to note that we humans have also evolved to adapt: we can learn new skills, overcome adversity, and problem-solve just about anything, at any stage of life. Think of all the uplifting success stories we’ve heard - most, if not all, involve perseverance, hard work, and of course change!
    Many of us in the United States live super busy lives. We work long hours, maintain homes, put meals on the table, pay the bills, nurture relationships, and somehow need to squeeze in some time to take care of ourselves. It can feel like too much - our homes and schedules are overstuffed, and yet, ironically, our culture encourages us to go after more.
    The good news is, the first step to changing our situation doesn’t involve lifting a finger! Well, unless we’d like to write about it. But this doesn’t mean it isn’t work. In fact, there’s some hard work involved, and it’s the critical first step to improving our situation. Changing our mindset and perspective is essential if we want to follow through with changing our habits. Our perspective is the lens through which we view our own personal reality - the way we see ourselves and the world around us. No one can change this for us. It’s work we have to do for ourselves. There’s no elusive magic formula - only effort, dedication, and consistency. ​
    We might be wondering, “when is the right time to start?” Right now. We do what we can with what we have. Start now, and a week, a month, a year, or even a decade from now, we won’t regret the decision to improve the situation. Over time, this practice of positive thinking becomes a new way of going though the day. New habits become so ingrained we may forget about the old ones altogether!

    Ready to take the first step? Here are some tips and examples to help guide a variety of situations:

1. Commit to Change Ask why, then picture an ideal situation. We have to see the value in taking the time and effort to make this important change.
2. Set Realistic Goals Once we’ve decided these changes are worthwhile, it’s important to set some realistic goals. As they say, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Don’t expect to declutter the whole house in a week when having lived there for a decade. Break it down into smaller, doable tasks - with time, they’ll add up to something big!
3. Express Gratitude and Appreciation for What You Have Right Now: Think about what’s important in your life, and take the time to acknowledge that you probably already have it. When we focus on what we have rather than what we lack, our perspective changes. Our situation doesn’t look so grim when we acknowledge the good that’s already there. By surrounding ourselves with only the most important things, people, and projects, we find that we have enough to manage and there’s no shortage of joy to experience. Consider gratitude as a daily practice. I start each day by acknowledging what I appreciate and enjoy in my life. This may be difficult at first, but over time it becomes natural and we feel more positive and uplifted on a daily basis.
4. Release What No Longer Serves You: A caterpillar’s metamorphosis into a butterfly happens through several stages of shedding an outer layer, and finally shedding that cocoon on the last push out. It’s impossible to manage all of the new without letting go of the old. By releasing and making space, we open up to new and exciting opportunities.
5. Create Your Support System: Again, change is difficult. It’s important to let family and friends know we’re going through a transition and need their support. Whether it’s hands-on help, a listening ear, or someone who’s up for fun field trips to help maintain balance, change is more manageable when friends and family are by our side. After all, that’s what friends (and family) are for!

Have you gone through life changes and used any of these tips? How did it work for you? Do you have any additional tips that helped you? Let me know in the comments below!

​Elena